Parenting advice is everywhere – books, blogs, podcasts, strangers in the grocery store aisle. But every now and then, someone shares a piece of wisdom that really sticks. The kind of advice that makes your life easier, your relationship with your kids stronger, and your perspective a little clearer.
As a mom of three, I’ve collected a lot of parenting tips over the years. But there are a few that have truly shaped the way I show up as a parent. Today, I want to share the best parenting tips I ever received…the ones that made me pause, try something different, and realize, wow, this actually works.
This best parenting tip came from my firstborn’s pediatrician, and I’ll never forget it. He told me to “save the yelling for the important stuff.” At first, I probably gave him a confused look, so he explained: yelling loses its power if you use it all the time.
When you yell constantly, for not picking up toys or spilling juice, your child becomes desensitized. But what if they’re chasing a ball into the road? That’s the moment when you want your voice to stop them in their tracks.
It stuck with me. Now, I reserve the raised voice for those truly urgent situations. And guess what? When I do yell, my kids stop immediately. It’s made the calmer conversations more effective too, because they know I’m really listening and not just reacting.
This gem came from none other than the Supernanny (yes, the TV show!). It might sound simple, but getting down on your child’s level during a meltdown is game-changing.
I remember being at the mall with my mom and my then 3-year-old. She was riding in one of those rentable car strollers, and after about 40 minutes of shopping, she hit her limit. I could see the meltdown brewing.
Instead of snapping or rushing to distract her, I remembered the Supernanny’s best parenting tips. I got down on my knees, looked her in the eyes, and calmly explained, “I know you’re tired and ready to go. If you can give mommy and grandma just a few more minutes, we’ll go get some lunch.”
The result? No screaming. No dragging a crying child through the store. Just a nod of understanding and a calm ride to the checkout line. I’ll never forget my mom’s face—she was amazed it worked. Honestly, so was I.
I can’t remember exactly where I heard this one, but it changed everything for me, especially after baby #3. The advice? “Take care of yourself before the baby. Baby can wait a few extra minutes.”
It’s so easy to jump the moment you hear a cry or see the hunger cues. But when you’re running on empty, even a simple task like feeding your baby can feel overwhelming.
If you haven’t brushed your teeth, used the bathroom, or even taken a few deep breaths, it’s okay to press pause for a moment. Do what you need to do, then show up for your baby fully present, not frazzled.
This small shift gave me so much more peace in those early days. I found that when I allowed myself to take a few minutes for me, I could actually enjoy those sweet baby snuggles instead of feeling pulled in a dozen directions.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned through all the stages of motherhood, it’s that there’s no one right way to do it. But there are little moments, little reminders, that can make it easier, and more joyful.
So whether it’s whispering instead of yelling, kneeling instead of towering, or taking five minutes to breathe before you respond…these small shifts can have a big impact.
And if no one’s told you this recently: You’re doing an amazing job!
Have a parenting tip that changed your life? I’d love to hear it – share it in the comments or send me a message. Let’s keep lifting each other up, one piece of great advice at a time.
Heather Parrish is a lifestyle maternity and newborn photographer based in Cedar Rapids and Iowa City, Iowa. She specializes in capturing the intimate and fleeting moments of early parenthood with a focus on natural light and authentic connections. Heather is a member of Professional Photographers of Iowa and strives to create images that reflect the unique beauty of each family.
@heatherparrishphotographyiowa
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